The Sweet Christian Bride

10 Considerations for Choosing a Bridal Party: #8

by admin on January 3, 2013 in Bridal Party, Ceremony Traditions with No Comments

Consideration #8: Do you need an even bridal party?

Chris and I are traditionalists, so we both had expectations for inviting the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.  We are also both very visual, so it was important to us, in a small way, to keep the sides even from a presentation perspective.

We were very pleased with the outcome, but it took a little working out to make things even.  Although our maid of honor and best man were easy choices, the rest of our bridal party came in uneven groupings such that I could either have four or seven girls and he could either have five or seven guys.  Any number other than those would have created some unpleasant drama within friend groups.

Our lowest common denominator was seven, so that’s what we decided on.  It worked perfectly in terms of making the logistics of walking down the aisle and presenting the bridal party very seamless.

Since we got married, however, I’ve observed a growing trend of uneven bridal parties.  Even with my traditionalist eye, I’ve really enjoyed watching these bridal parties in action because I knew the mismatch was intentionally designed to honor someone.

One very close friend of mine had three more bridesmaids than her husband had groomsmen.  She explained to me that God had put it on her heart to ask them.  So she did.  She honored these women by throwing her own initial plan for even numbers aside and inviting them to be an intimate part of her wedding.

I found that to be incredibly beautiful.

Especially if the girls walk down by themselves rather than with a corresponding guy, the audience will barely notice that your numbers are uneven.  I’ve seen two guys walk a girl back up the aisle, just as I have seen one guy with a girl on each arm.  I’ve also seen bridal armies of greater than ten on each side (by that point, guests lose count of the bridal party anyway).

If you don’t care that your numbers are uneven, your bridal party decisions can be a little less logistical and a little more relational.  And if you do care about having even numbers, find the common denominator with your fiancé, yet stay open to changing your plans if God is prompting you to ask someone else.

As long as you, your fiancé, and God are all on the same page, the number of people you include in your bridal party will be perfect.

Photo © John Yao, SimplyTwo Photography, featuring Jade and Keke’s wedding
Article originally published on January 28, 2011.

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