The Sweet Christian Bride

10 Reasons for the Christian Bride To Marry a Christian Man: Reason 10

by admin on July 10, 2012 in Spouse with 1 Comment

Reason 10: God Says So


When you were a kid, did you ever hate it when your parents told you, “Because I said so!”?  All we wanted were some answers to guide our inquisitive minds, some reasoning to validate that our parents respected our growing intellect, and some discipline to remind us that our parents loved us and cared about who we grew up to be.

“Because I said so,” was the worst response because not only did it do none of the above, but it also implied that kids should trust their parents as infallible, as if their parents were God.

Only God—in His omnipotence, omniscience, and goodness—can say, “Because I said so,” or in Leviticus terminology, “I am the LORD,” and have that mean something.  But even then we get a little annoyed.

Although we worship Him as One who truly does know everything, One who loves us and knows us better than we can even love or know ourselves, and One who cares deeply about the person we grow up to be, we still want a reason to assure ourselves that His command is worth it.

So what does all this have to do with marrying a Christian man?

God specifically told the Israelites not to let their children marry any non-Israelites because those children would be led astray from God.  Husband and wife move towards oneness in marriage, and God was trying to spare them the temptation to “reconcile” value differences in spouses who do not share their faith.

Until I met Chris, I had never dated a man who loved Jesus and spurred me on to love Him more.  Somehow I justified each relationship enough to stay in it for too long.  Sadly, this kind of delusion in relationships is not uncommon.

I had no idea how dangerous my dating non-Christian men would be to my faith and to myself.  It was also very dangerous to the men because I would preach Jesus and then live sinfully in our relationship; I was a very confusing witness to them.

Without being open to the convictions of the Holy Spirit, we often miss the fact that we are standing in a danger zone.  It’s the dimming effect.  If you stand in a room long enough and the lights slowly dim, you won’t even realize that you are standing in the dark until the lights are turned on.  It takes the contrast of what is right to show us where our moral light has been dimming over time.

I had to hear God the hard way because I was too stubborn and sure of myself to trust His Word.  But He says as much plainly for all to hear in 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1:

Do not be mismatched with unbelievers.  For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness?  Or what fellowship is there between light and darkness?  What agreement does Christ have with Beliar?  Or what does a believer share with an unbeliever?  What agreement has the temple of God with idols?  For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, ‘I will live in them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.  Therefore come out from them, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch nothing unclean; then I will welcome you, and I will be your father, and you shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.’ Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and of spirit, making holiness perfect in the fear of God.

Paul is telling the church of Corinth not to partner with non-believers in order to avoid adopting a synchronistic religion (one that accepts both Christian and pagan practice).  What greater partnership does one have than in marriage?  If churches should not partner with non-believers, then spouses should not either.

For those already married to unbelievers, it is good to stay married and let God do His work in the non-believer (1 Corinthians 7:13-14).  But for those who are not yet married, it is good to listen to God’s advice; His design is always the best.

We are blessed in our obedience to God.

Chris and I have been married four and a half years, but even in that short time, God has brought and allowed so many exhausting trials.  And what Chris and I have not personally gone through in marriage, our friends and family have.  The only thing that brought us through in one piece was the Lord.

Not only did we get through it, but we got through it better than we came into it.  There is no other person in the whole world I would want on my team when times are tough than Chris.

When you choose your spouse, choose one who, in the trials of life, can help point you back to the Truth of the Lord.  You will be blessed by God’s design for marriage.

Why is it good to marry a man who will lead you closer to Christ through His own faith in Jesus?  Because God said so.

You can trust Him.

Pray for discernment and for a heart of peace.  If you are genuinely seeking God’s will, His Spirit will make it known to you when you are out of His will.  As renowned Bible teacher Robertson McQuilkin says, those pangs of conviction by the Holy Spirit are warnings of danger that God gives to us because He loves us too much to let us wander in danger.

Dear Lord, Here I am, the servant of the Lord.  Let it be with me according to Your will.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.


By Lindsay

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