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An Honoring Bouquet

by admin on May 1, 2012 in Bridal Party, Ceremony Traditions, Family, Flowers, Purpose with 2 Comments

Mothers Day is coming up in two weeks, so I’ve been thinking about celebrating my mom and my mother-in-law.  Our mothers deserve so much more thanks than we can ever afford to give them.

Especially with the shift in dynamic that happens with leaving and cleaving, what it means to celebrate our mothers changes slightly when we become married.  There is a new balance to honoring them daily, yet re-prioritizing our attention to make our marriages our primary relationship, not our family of origin.  This rebalancing is a sensitive process that we must endeavor towards prayerfully.

Weddings happen to be right in the thick of this rebalancing.  You, the bride, are seeking to leave from your parents and cleave to your husband, yet your parents will likely not feel totally ready for you to do that.  You might not even feel ready to do that, but the moment you say “I do,” you must begin that journey (Begin that journey during your engagement if you can. It will seem less abrupt).

So what can you do to honor your mother in your wedding?

One of my favorite options came from a friend of mine who had her flower girls hold bouquets that were replicas of her mom’s wedding bouquet.  This took attention on the bride’s part to notice her mother’s bouquet in pictures, and to either ask her mom for the details or ask a florist to identify the details (if she was keeping the bouquet a surprise from her mom).

What a beautiful opportunity to listen to your mom’s story and hear what was important to her on her own wedding day!  Any bits of her wedding story, whether bouquet or other, can be inspiration for your own.  Incorporating details from her own wedding in yours will demonstrate to your mom that you have heard her and that you have received her.  At a time when you are naturally pulling away from her, this demonstration of love can be a soothing balm to her aching heart.

You could also ask your mother-in-law and your grandmothers which flowers they used in their weddings.  Between your bouquet, your bridal party’s, your centerpieces, and your decorative arrangements, you have many opportunities to replicate flowers from your family members as a way to honor them.

By Lindsay
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    • Amy says:

      Hi, I’ve just come across your website, seeking refuge from the wedding hype, looking for something a little more marriage oriented. I love this idea for echoing family flowers in our day – I’m definitely going to suggest this one to my fiance!
      Thankyou for providing a Christian space in the vast world of wedding blogs 🙂

    • admin says:

      Amy, That’s the sweetest! Thank you for your kind words. I’m so glad you enjoy the site. Blessings to you and your fiance. You’re going to rock those flowers 🙂