The Sweet Christian Bride

How To Give a Wedding Toast

If you want to avoid rambling, awkward toasts at your wedding, feel free to set some guidelines.  Your novice toasters will probably appreciate that, but even if they are expert speech writers who already know appropriate guidelines, they will still respect your wishes.

The biggest wedding toast pitfalls that you will want to avoid are

1) Having too many toasts in a row

2) Rambling, sharing too many private jokes, or telling inappropriate stories about the bride or groom

3) Speaking at a volume that is inaudible (definitely use microphones if appropriate)

4) Providing no inkling of who the toaster is

You have direct control over your sound system and your reception agenda, but in terms of the toast content and delivery, the most you can do is share your guidelines, offer a more-or-less fail-proof outline to your toasters (see below), pray that they do well, and sit back and enjoy.

Toast Outline:

1) Introduce yourself.  How do you know the bride or groom? If your audience knows your credentials, they will respect your thoughts more.  Knowing that you truly know the bride or groom allows them to care more about what you say.

2)  Tell the audience why you love the bride or groom (whichever one invited you to toast).  The point of a toast is to corporately recognize and celebrate someone or something.  Use this as an opportunity to tell the bride or groom what you love about her or him, and consequently, what their new spouse will love about them.

3) Back up your affirmations with a story.  Telling stories is the best way to hold your audience captive.  Stories teach with emotional pictures and plots.  Sharing an example of how the bride or groom demonstrated the qualities that you admired about her or him in #2 backs up your credibility as the toaster and it draws others in to experience what you have experienced about the bride or groom.  This part is how you make the toast meaningful to the guests on the other side of the family who don’t know the bride or groom well.

4) Tell what you love about the spouse (whichever one did NOT ask you to toast) and how that quality has made the bride or groom (the one who DID ask you to toast) a better person.  The most meaningful wedding toasts are the ones that celebrate the couple, not just one of the individuals.  They (hopefully) are better off as two becoming one than they were before they met.  Share an example of this, preferably in a story rather than a reiteration.

5) Share your hopes for the couple.  Don’t forget the part where you actually get to lead the guests in a toast to their marriage.

For more information on how to give a Christian wedding toast, check out Jonathan M. Romig’s ebook.

Photo © John Yao, SimplyTwo Photography, featuring Annie and Henry’s wedding

By Lindsay
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    • Helen & Kingsley says:

      I,m looking for a good wedding Toast, please forward me a lovely wedding Toast for my wedding and may God bless you.

    • Jonathan Romig says:

      I appreciate your short article. There aren’t many resources about Christian toasts available online and people search for it more than we sometimes realize. I recently self-published an ebook called “How to give a Christian wedding toast” on Amazon. That’s another resource.