The Sweet Christian Bride

Maintaining Purity

by admin on July 13, 2011 in Purity with No Comments

Not too long ago, I was in a conversation over dinner with some single women who were talking about trying to maintain sexual purity in their dating relationships.  They turned to me, as the married woman, and said, “Give us some advice on this.”

Whew.  Where to start?

I suppose at the beginning…

…God’s way is better.  Always.  If honoring God is not the perspective you are starting with, you are setting yourself up to fail.  Sexual purity starts with a love of the Lord, a hunger for His Word, and a heart for prayer.  That is the advice I wish I was given.

All measures taken to create boundaries and accountability will fall short if they are not based on the unwavering foundation of Christ.

Having said that, even those of us with a vibrant heart for the Lord can fall prey to the voracious desires of the flesh and the seductive ploys of the enemy.  Boundaries and accountability are therefore necessary.

Especially the closer you get to the wedding, the more you will encounter topics of sex and romance in your counseling and the more you will anticipate sex with your husband.  It is crucial that you are equipped for purity before you are tempted.

To create your game plan, you will need to complete 3 basic steps: 1) pray, 2) set boundaries, and 3) arrange accountability.  Stay tuned for a discussion of each of these in the posts to come.  For today, start with this prayer, which is derived from Psalm 63:

My precious Lord, I seek You, my soul thirsts for You; my body faints for You, as in a parched and isolated desert where there is no other nourishment.  Therefore, I come daily to You, the holy of holy, and marvel at Your power and glory.  You are better than life itself.  The love You give me daily, even though I am depraved and unworthy, tastes better than my very life, so I will praise You in song and in word. I will choose with You in mind.  I will bless You with all that is within me, with my hands raised and my heart humbled.  Lord, penetrate my stubborn will so that it may yearn for what brings You glory.  Your way is always better than mine.  In Christ’s name, Amen.

By Lindsay

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