The Sweet Christian Bride

Mrs. X

by admin on January 12, 2012 in Family, Logistics, Relationship, Spouse with No Comments

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”

-Juliet Capulet, Romeo and Juliet

In one sense, Juliet is right.  A name is just a word.  Identity is rooted in character and known by speech and action.  A name might just as well be a misnomer as a title.  In another sense, however, a name speaks to the very core of who we are.

God is a lover of names.

Jesus has many names: Emmanuel, Christ, Messiah, Prince of Peace, Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, and Everlasting Father to name a few.  All of which speak to Who He is.  His names were prophetic, not haphazard.

Ishmael, meaning “God hears,” was named because the Lord heard Hagar’s cries.  Seth, a word close to “appointed,” was named because God intentionally gave Eve another child after Cain murdered able and was banished.  Jacob, meaning “He takes by the heel,” was named because he was born gripping his twin brother Esau’s heel.  Benjamin, meaning “Son of my right hand,” was renamed by his father after his mother had named him Ben-oni, “Son of my sorrows,” before she died after child-birth.

God also uses names to signify transformations in His children.  He renames Abram to Abraham after making a covenant with him; Sarai also changed to Sarah.  God renames Jacob to Israel after commissioning him to be the father of a nation.

Clearly God loves names.

But what does this mean for you?  Do you keep your maiden name because God birthed you into that family?  Do you hyphenate because you are two people joining into a distinct entity?  Do you take your husband’s name because you are leaving and cleaving to the one who is now the head of the marriage?

Each bride has her own reason for choosing which name to go by as a married woman.  I don’t know that there is a right or wrong answer, but I believe God deeply cares.  Ask Him what name He has for you.

The option I chose was to drop my middle name and replace it with my maiden name.  I then took my husband’s last name as my own.  There were many factors that I sifted through with God to come to that conclusion.  One was the great family that I was coming from.  I was and always will be my parents’ daughter as well as a member of a generation in a fascinating genealogical legacy.  But in marriage, I am one with my husband, so I wanted to have his name even over my own.  I was excited to become a member of his great lineage as well.  Chris and I both wanted our family to be of one name as opposed to joined names.  And to signify the leaving and cleaving that goes into becoming one, I opted for replacing one of my names rather than adding his name to my own (first, middle, maiden, last).

That’s my story of choosing a name, but it’s just one story.

What’s yours?  What factors are you sorting through?  If you are already married, how did you decide which name combination God had for you as a married woman?

Regardless of which married name you choose, know that God has already and will continue to call you Beloved.  He knows your name.

By Lindsay

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