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Proverbs 31 Wife: Rooted in Christ

by admin on April 5, 2012 in Faith, Family, Purpose with No Comments


“Strength and dignity are her clothing,

And she laughs at the time to come.

She opens her mouth with wisdom,

And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

She looks well to the ways of her household,

and does not eat the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:25-27).

Just this morning I was reading Lysa Terkeurst’s book Becoming More than a Good Bible Study Girl, and I came across this question: “During the course of my ordinary days, do people ever see my reaction to situations and take note that I have been with Jesus?”(139).

We know that where we are rooted determines what kind of fruit we will bear.  If people are to observe our ordinary days and come to the conclusion that our reactions bear His fruit, then we must first be rooted in Him.

It is much easier to root our premeditated actions and words in Christ than to root our reactions.  Reactions are born in the face of unpredictable situations, which usually catch us off guard.  We can certainly do our part to be prepared so as to train our reactionary responses, but the training process will be a life-long endeavor.  Good, consistent fruit doesn’t grow overnight.

What is your reaction to the future?  Probably excitement, right?  We have hope in what is to come, we have hope that what we are building now will come to fruition later, and sometimes we just cling to the hope that the future won’t be worse than the present.  Hope sustains us for the long term.

But what about your reaction to the near future, the one that has five deadlines approaching, the one that has a difficult conversation in it, the one that doesn’t have sufficient funds to pay the bills?  And what about the near future for those who have fallen terminally ill?

Do death and anxiety ever plague you?

How does the Proverbs 31 Wife laugh at the time to come rather than worry about it?  The King James translation says she”rejoices in time to come” [emphasis mine], meaning “she lives in constant tranquillity of mind, from a just confidence in God’s gracious providence.”1  Or another way of looking at this is that by putting in the hard work now, she will be able to reap the benefit of that in her older years without having to worry. 2

What is it that keeps her from being a worrisome wreck (especially when it comes to her children)?

It’s because she is rooted in Christ.  His peace exudes from her.  Tuesday’s post highlighted that the Proverbs 31 Wife is dressed in high-quality clothes that represent her well.  Today, we see that she wears “strength and dignity” (v 25) in her spirit.  She is rooted in Christ to the degree that she bears the fruit of strength and dignity.  This is a picture of her spiritual life, one that defines her outward appearance.  She wears the modesty, strength, and peace of one who is dignified, and we know that her dignity is not something earned but something given to her by the Lord Who has established her.

Another great test of fruit is our tongues.  We might be able to hide our anxieties and fears by wearing strength and dignity when people are watching, but our words are out there for all to hear.  Words are indelible.  Our tongues are fires that can bring about destruction (James 3:6).  When our unrestrained tongues unleash fire, people will not take note that we have been with Jesus.  No way.

Our tongues, however, can also yield priceless counsel and life-giving encouragement.  When we have a quiet and gentle spirit, which is beautiful to God (1 Peter 3:4), then we have our roots in the correct soil.  We will be less tempted to use our words to control people and situations because we will have greater trust that God is truly in control.  This allows us room to select our words for only what is useful for building someone up (Ephesians 4:29).

The Proverbs 31 Wife “is neither sullenly silent, nor full of impertinent talk, but speaks discreetly and piously, as occasion offers.  In her tongue – Her speeches are guided by wisdom and grace, and not by inordinate passions. And this practice is called a law in her tongue, because it is constant and customary, and proceeds from an inward and powerful principle of true wisdom.”3

Similarly, a Proverbs 31 Wife who is rooted in Christ finds purpose in her position as wife.  Not only does she find it good to attentively care for the people and things of her home, but also “she does not intermeddle in the concerns of other people’s houses; she thinks it enough for her to look well to her own.”4  She teaches her children the Truth of the Lord, she makes her home a sanctuary for prayer, and she does all in her power to shape her house into one that serves the Lord (Joshua 24:15).

In accepting her purposed position, idleness becomes an unattractive invitation because it cannot yield nearly as much joy as serving the ones she loves.  This joy extends even more to Jesus, Whom she loves dearly, and to Whom she wants to draw near.  Entertaining idleness gives occasion for the enemy to tempt and lure, whereas giving purpose to each moment, whether in work, worship, meditation, or leisure, as employment for the Lord keeps her heart from wandering in hopes of unfulfilling pleasure.5

Rooting yourself in the Lord will change your life.  Wait for it patiently, and expect challenge to arise against your decisions.  But know that with God as your vine and you as His branches, His glory and name is known by the fruit that you bear (John 15:5).  There is no wasted decision made unto the Lord.


1 Wesley, John.  John Wesley’s Explanatory Notes. Accessed 5 April 2012. http://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/wesleys-explanatory-notes/proverbs/proverbs-31.html?p=2

2 Henry, Matthew.  Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible (Complete). Accessed 5 April 2012. http://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/matthew-henry-complete/proverbs/31.html?p=4

3 Wesley, John.  John Wesley’s Explanatory Notes. Accessed 5 April 2012.  http://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/wesleys-explanatory-notes/proverbs/proverbs-31.html?p=2

4 Henry, Matthew.  Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible (Complete). Accessed 5 April 2012. http://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/matthew-henry-complete/proverbs/31.html?p=4

5 Henry, Matthew.  Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible (Complete). Accessed 5 April 2012. http://www.biblestudytools.com/commentaries/matthew-henry-complete/proverbs/31.html?p=4

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