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Receiving Your Spouse

“The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman, ‘ for she was taken out of man'” (Genesis 2:23).

The first recorded ode to love.

For a marriage that experienced perfection for a time, is this the love poem you expected?  I know to me it seems a little too biological.  It feels more cold and scientific than I would have wanted if I were Eve.  Give me the emotion.  Gush over me.  Show me that I make you feel dangerously confident yet alarmingly weak.  Sing to me.  Capture my heart with metaphor and imagery, not rudimentary biology.

But here is what I’ve been coming to learn about Adam’s ode:

He has been watching creature after creature.  Although I’m sure he was initially caught up in the wonder of God’s creation and the privilege of naming each animal, after awhile, he probably started noticing that out of God’s vast designs for life, no other animal was like him.  They had scales and fur and feathers.  They had wings and four feet and no feet.  He was alone.  No one shared his image; therefore, no one shared his name.

To see at last a creature who shared his same bone structure and whose skin felt the same as his was a rush of hope that this creature would be like him.  That she would speak to the hole in his heart.

“Bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” was a way of saying, you were made for me.  I desire you as my companion.  I am in awe of God’s perfect creation, perfectly created for me.  My loneliness pales in your presence.  You fill my heart in a way that no other creature does.  You are set apart from all the others.

That’s right.  Now we’re talking.  This is sounding more like a love poem I would want to receive.  But here’s the best part.  As I’ve been learning through FamilyLife resources, what Adam is really saying at the core of this poem is, “I receive you.”

He receives her not because she has proven to be a good cook, a respectful wife, a trustworthy conversationalist, or a delightful friend.  He knows nothing about her other than God created her for him.

It is God whom Adam knows, not Eve.  But because he knows that God is good and His provision is perfect, Adam receives Eve as God’s perfect provision for him.

As you write your vows, or if you are already married, as you wake up in the morning each day, tell God and tell your spouse that you receive him as God’s perfect provision for you.  Then, when challenging opportunities arise to love and respect your spouse, the burden to receive him based on his performance is gone.  No matter how much in that moment or season your spouse might not “deserve” your love and respect, you can still freely give it because you know that God is good, and you know that God has given you this imperfect person as a perfect provision for you.


By Lindsay
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