The Sweet Christian Bride

Saying “I Love You”

by admin on August 5, 2011 in Ceremony Traditions, Relationship with No Comments

Getting married to someone is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life.  Isn’t it odd that tradition says a groom isn’t supposed to see his bride on the wedding day before the ceremony?  All of a sudden, after not seeing each other the whole day or even saying so much as a hello that morning, she says, “I do,” and he says, “I do.”  Within one conversation that day, they end up married.

I suppose that can be mysterious and romantic, but to me, it’s a little odd.  I had a friend who met with her husband before the wedding to pray.  Other brides have met up with their husbands for pre-wedding pictures or made a sweet phone call just to say hi before the whirlwind wedding began.

One of my favorite ways for a husband and wife to touch base before they say “I do” is the love letter.  I saw this done at a wedding.  They hadn’t seen each other or spoken to each other all day, which made for a glow in their eyes when they finally saw each other.  There ceremony commenced traditionally, but before the bride and groom exchanged any vows or rings, they turned to each other and pulled out letters.

The groom took his bride’s hand and read to her a letter he had written, telling her what he loved about her and how she made him a better man.  He told her how excited he was that in the next twenty minutes, the rest of their lives together would start.  Then he said, “I love you.”

She in turn, after a couple of blissful tears, read her beautiful letter to him.  She told him what she admired about him and how he complemented her.  She told him all the things that she was looking forward to in life with him.  Then she told him, “I love you.”

Directly after they shared their hearts to one another, they exchanged simple vows.

It was perfect. 

After the love letters, their minds and hearts were ripe for the vows.  Sometimes, in all the excitement and itinerary, a bride and groom can forget the simplest yet most meaningful little words: I love you.  Vows without an I love you seem appropriate because that is what a wedding is for, but they don’t always feel organic. 

On your wedding day, touch base if you need to or keep no contact until the altar, but whichever you do, don’t forget to tell your groom on your wedding day that you love him.

By Lindsay

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