The same is true for affirming our fiancé/husbands, and them for us. If we tell our husbands two kind words all year, then he will be dying of thirst. If we tell him the same one kind word over and over, he will be over-watered and won’t absorb it. There will be times when he might notice the absence of a kind word and be okay, whereas other times, noticing the absence of a kind word will remind him of his great thirst and will cause him to doubt your love for him, especially if his love language is words of affirmation.