The Sweet Christian Bride

Thought for the Week: Romans 12:3

by admin on April 21, 2013 in Relationship, Thought for the Week with No Comments

“For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of yourself more highly than you ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned” (Romans 12:3).

Being married means that you know your spouse intimately.  You see his innermost practices and you know his most personal thoughts.  There is so much beauty in knowing someone this deeply.  There is also, however, much danger lest we determine their differences are wrong and their choices not good enough.

A common area of judgment between spouses is worship.  We have all come to know God by a certain journey, and we hear His voice in a certain way.  Especially as we grow in our faith, our relationship with God is the result of a labor of love filled with endurance and self-sacrifice.  Surely how we know God is the best way because that is the way God has brought us to Him.

The problem with this thinking, however, is that it assumes your spouse’s mode of worship and the dynamic of his relationship with God is sub-par because it is not the same one as yours.  Be quick to realize that different is good and necessary.  Your spouse might be more cerebral and private in his faith than you are.  Celebrate him in that.  He might prefer the sanctuary of a holy church whereas you love the outdoors.  Join him in his holy places.  He might sing at church with his hands in his pockets while you are dancing in the aisles.  Respect him in that.  God made him different from you, so letting him worship how he and God commune best is a beautiful act of love.

Father, You are so creative and vast in Your design.  Forgive me that I judge those who aren’t me and that I want to control those who do things differently from me.  Help me to see the masterpiece in my husband that You see.  Release me from my assumption that different is less valuable.  I never want my husband to believe that he is not good enough for me, and I never want to rob You of the many ways You receive our worship.  Teach me instead how to embrace my husband and to learn from his differences, for they are good!  In Jesus’ name, Amen.


By Lindsay

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